There’s a poisonous double standard in our society...

Thursday, September 13, 2012

“There’s a poisonous double standard in our society which says that it’s reverse-sexist and wrong for women to feel threatened by creepy-awkward male behaviour because our fear implies that we hold the negative, stereotypical view that All Men Are Predators, but that if we’re raped or sexually assaulted by any man with whom we’ve had prior social interaction – and particularly if he’s expressed some sexual or romantic interest in us during that time – it’s reasonable for observers to ask what precautions we took to prevent the assault from happening, or to suggest that we maybe led the guy on by not stating our feelings plainly. The result is a situation where women are punished if we reject, avoid or identify creepy men, and then told it’s our fault if we’re assaulted by someone we plainly ought to have rejected, avoided, identified.”

The Creepiness Question « shattersnipe: malcontent & rainbows (via vladislava)

So, last month I was at a bar. My friend left our table for a couple minutes, and when she came back, one of the dudes at the table next to us leaned over and said, “Hey, don’t worry, we didn’t roofie your drink, hahaha *a million high fives*” My friend rolled her eyes, but I, CONNOISSEUR OF COMEDY, casually told the dude, “Hey, man. Roofie jokes? Not funny.” To which he very astutely and appropriately replied, “Why? Were you roofied? hahahaha *a million high fives*”

“That’s not the point—”

“She was roofied! Hahaha. Well, that’s why you don’t think it’s funny.”

“No, in general it’s not fun—

“No, you were roofied, that’s why it’s not funny to you.”

ad infinitum, until I finally gave in.